If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. You have to believe you have the right stuff, that you are able to pull it off. You have to believe in yourself. But remember, the past is the past. There is no payoff for blaming them for your current level of self-confidence. It's now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs. You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to-anything at all-because, in fact, you can. It might help you to know that the latest brain research now indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with the proper training, coaching, and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.
If a 20-year-old Texan can take up the luge and become an Olympic athlete, a college dropout can become a billionaire, and a dyslexic student who failed three grades can become a best-selling author and television producer, then you, too, can accomplish anything if you will simply believe it is possible.
If you assume in favor of yourself and act as if it is possible, then you will do the things that are necessary to bring about the result. If you believe it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary, and you will not produce the result. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase "I can't" and all of its cousins, such as "I wish I were able to." The words I can't actually dis empower you. They actually make you weaker when you say them.
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body. You must take responsibility for removing I can't from your vocabulary.
Don't waste your life believing you can't:
In 1977, in Tallahassee, Florida, Laura Shultz, who was 63 at the time, picked up the back end of a Buick to get it off her grandson'. Before that time, she had never lifted anything heavier than a 50-pound bag of pet food.
Dr. Charles Garfield, aether of Peak Performance and Peak Performers, interviewed her after reading about her in the National Enquirer. When he got to her home, she kept resisting any attempts to talk about what she called "the event."
Finally he got her to talk about "the event." She said she didn't like to thin about it because it challenged her beliefs about what she could and couldn't do, about what was possible. She said,"If I was able to do this when I didn't think I could, what does that say about the rest of my life? Have I wasted it?"
Charlie convinced her that her life was not yet over and that she could still do whatever she wanted to do. He asked her what she wanted to do, what her passion was. She said she had always loved rocks. She had wanted to study geology. At 63, with a little coaching with Charlie, she decided to go back to school to study geology. She eventually got her degree and went on to teach at a local community college.
Don't wait until you are 63 to decide that you can do anything you want. Don't waste years of your life. Decide that you are capable of doing anything you want and start working toward it now.
Here's another statistic showing that belief in yourself is more important than knowledge, training or schooling: 20% of America's millionaires never set foot in college, and 21 of the 222 Americans listed as billionaires in 2003 never got their college diplomas; 2 never even finished high school! So although education and a commitment to lifelong learning are essential to success, a formal degree isn't a requirement. Larry Ellison, CEO of Oracle, dropped out of the university of Illinois and at the time of this writing was worth $18 billion. And Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard and later founded Microsoft. Today he is considered one of the richest men in the world, with a net worth of over $ 46 billion.
Even Vice President Dick Cheney dropped out of college. When you realize that the vice president, the richest man in America, and many of our greatest musicians and athletes , are all college dropouts, you see that you can start from any where and create a successful life for yourself.
What others think about you is none of your business.
"You have to believe in yourself when no one else
does. That's what makes you a winner."
- Venus Williams
If having others believing in you and your dream was a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything. You need to base your decisions about what you want to do on your goals and desires- not the goals, desires, opinions, and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children, and coworkers. Quit worrying what other people think about you and follow your heart.
Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rules: When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you; when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you; when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
Surprise! Most of the time, nobody's thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives, and if they are thinking about them. People think about themselves, not you. Think about it- all the time you are wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home could all be better spent on thinking about doing the things that will achieve your goals.