Sunday, August 31, 2014

The 5 Biggest Job Interview Mistakes You Could Possibly Make


Related imageCongratulations! You’ve gotten an interview for that job you want. The next step is to ace it and get closer to getting hired. To do that, you’ll want to avoid making one -- or more -- of these five big job interview mistakes.


Criticizing a Previous Employer


Putting down the company you’re trying to leave or one you’ve worked for in the past gives off the impression you’re a negative person who can’t let go of the past. It also may make people wonder what you’d say about their company if they hire you. Also, “it's not a good sign if you're saying really mean things about your old boss,” says Jacob Shriar, a growth manager at Office-vibe. “It doesn't make you look good.”


Missing Opportunities to Prove Yourself



Interviewers will ask questions that give you the chance to demonstrate your qualifications and show you have what it takes to do the job. “Failure to answer questions with ESR (Example, Specifics, Results) responses,” is a failure to make the most of the interview, says Hank Boyer, president and CEO of Boyer Management Group.


“Most questions offer you the opportunity in your answer to provide the interviewer with specific, relevant examples of you accomplishing some type of measurable result that benefited the employer,” says Boyer. “This requires you to have done your homework ahead of time, and to accurately portray what happened, so that when the employer verifies your story with prior employers, it matches what you said.”


Providing the Wrong Recommendations



When you first hit the job market, it’s easy to think you don’t have any connections who could serve as professional recommendations. The answer is not to use your mom, your uncle or some other personal contact as a reference.


“When graduating from high school or college one thinks they don't know anyone and therefore don't have references they can use,” says Carolyn R. Owens, founder and president of Infinity Coaching. “They decide to bring to the interview a letter from their parents stating how great of a son or daughter they are; this does not go over well with hiring managers and the candidate is not taken seriously.”


Setting Yourself Up to Fail on Social Media



Social media is part of the process companies use to vet prospective employees these days. Before you walk into an interview, there’s a good chance your prospective employer is looking at your Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Tumblr, Google +, and other social media accounts. If they don’t like what they see, your interview may be doomed.


“Posting on social media sites how you have interviewed countlessly unsuccessfully or a picture of you partying the night before an interview,” says career coach Chantay Bridges. “This is not what a potential employer wants to see” and it’s not doing you any favors.


Bringing Children Along



This may seem obvious, but career coach Jill MacFadyen says she once saw a “man [arrive] for the interview with a toddler. He had on a leather jacket. The toddler had no socks and no jacket, and it was cold.”


The leather jacket and the toddler weren’t the biggest problems, though. “In general, big mistakes are not showcasing how you meet the company needs,” says MacFayden. If you show up late, improperly dressed, without having done research, or even with a child in tow, you’re showing the company exactly why they don’t need you instead of what they could gain by accepting you for the position.
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Sunday, June 8, 2014

10 Best Self-Help Books Of All Time

http://www.inspiredleap.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/bigstock_Young_beautiful_girl_reading_a_14450870.jpgThere are many people who consider books as a dying art form, especially as physical objects. While I accept that books will one day be nothing more than words on a screen, stories will always live on.This means choosing what to read is a big decision. Sorting the wheat from the chaff is impossible without some help, which is why recommendations from other book lovers are crucial. I round up Ten Of The Most Self-Help Tones Of All Times. A list that covers such as wide range of topics, but everything below is considered a giant in its respective area. You can't go wrong with any of these classics, as they are all highly recommended by many sources.While friends and family are the obvious first choice. Have a good read!!



1. Think and Grow Rich- Napoleon Hill


Some books you read. Some books you enjoy. But some books just swallow you up, heart and soul.



Think and Grow Rich is a motivational personal development and self-help book.The book can be used to help individuals succeed in all lines of work and to do or be almost anything they want in this world. Price! Paperpack $8.45Even if it 70 years since the book Think and Grow Rich was written, it is still a highly respected and read books. This classic is a motivational Personal Development and Self-Help Books written by Napoleon Hill. Napoleon Hill, is now counted in the top ranks of the world's winner himself. Hill draws on stories of Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and other millionaires of his generation to illustrate principles. While the title implies that this book deals only with how to achieve monetary wealth, the author explains that the philosophy taught in the book can be used to help individuals succeed in all lines of work and to do or be almost anything they want in this world. The book was first published in 1937 during the Great Depression. It had sold over 30 million copies and it remains the biggest seller of Napoleon Hill's books-a perennial best-seller after 70 years (Business Week Magazine's Best-Seller List ranked Think and Grow Rich as the sixth best-selling paperback business book 70 years after it was first published). Think and Grow Rich is listed in John C. Maxwell's A Lifetime "Must Read" Books List. The essence of the book Napoleon Hill's famous statement:

Everything your mind can conceive, you can achieve.

The title says the same in different words. A compelling title might explain initial rushes to buy a book, but in the last 60 years, the world has bought over 30 million copies of  Think and Grow Rich.


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2. Man's  Search For Man   An Introduction to Logo therapy

by Viktor E. Frankel

In the thirty-three years since then, Man's Search For Man - at once a memoir, a self-help book, and a psychology manual - has become a classic that has sold more than three million copies in English language editions. Man's Search for Meaning tells the chilling and inspirational story of eminent psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, who was imprisoned at Auschwitz and other concentration camps for three years during the Second World War. Immersed in great suffering and loss, Frankl began to wonder why some of his fellow prisoners were able not only to survive the horrifying conditions, but to grow in the process.In Man's Search for Meaning, Frankl outlines the principles of logo-therapy, and offers ways to help each one of us focus on finding the purpose in our lives. A must-read of anyone. A potentially life-changing and eye opening book.



by Stephen R. Covey

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey
This is one of the best-known leadership books of recent years, and the key phrase in the title is "people-focused". Rather than tackling specific problems or making external changes to processes, systems and so on, Covey's approach helps you focus on developing yourself personally and your relationships with others.

Covey describes three distinct stages of personal growth that we move through as we develop these habits: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change was a ground breaker when it was first published in 1990, and it continues to be a business bestseller with more than 10 million copies sold. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas. His anecdotes are as frequently from family situations as from business challenges.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People explains a useful set of guiding principles that help you change personally as well as professionally, and so become more effective.

Dependence: This is where we start, dependent on other people. And without personal development, we would stay stuck at this stage.
* Independence: Through personal development, we become more independent and take responsibility for our actions. Still, however, we are not fully effective.
* Interdependence: At this stage, we develop the understanding that, although we are self-reliant, we still need other people to accomplish our goals. At the interdependence stage we embrace the idea of working together for better results.

Covey describes three distinct stages of personal growth that we move through as we develop these habits: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change was a ground breaker when it was first published in 1990, and it continues to be a business bestseller with more than 10 million copies sold. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas. His anecdotes are as frequently from family situations as from business challenges.

Key Points:


Steven Covey's Seven Habits help you develop personally and so become more effective in how you work and relate with other people. Developing these habits can help you tackle your work and life challenges with new confidence. At the core of these habits are a deeper understanding of yourself and an appreciation of the fact that you need others in order to achieve your goals. Developing them will take time and effort. But it is worthwhile and will have a lasting effect on your personal effectiveness.



by David D. Burns

In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life. The best book for those who suffer from depression or anxiety. The best selling self-help book for mental health issues. See "feeling good" Reviews and Summaries on amazon!
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a talking therapy that can help you manage your problem by changing the way you think and behave. Talking and changing your behavior can change how you think (Cognitive) and what you do (Behavior). This can make you feel better about life. With Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, you work with a mental health counselor in a structured way, attending a limited number of session. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps you become aware of inaccurate or negative thinking, so you can view challenging situation more clearly and respond to them in a more effective way. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be a very helpful tool, in treating mental disorders or illness, such as anxiety or depression. It can be an effective tool to help anyone learn how to better manage stressful situation.

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The best book for those who suffer from depression or anxiety. The best selling self-help book for mental health issues. Feeling Good is based on cognitive-behavioral therapy, among the best types of therapy if not the best, and it is the bases of a lot of the stuff from the current 'it' fad of "The Secret." In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life


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by Anthony Robbins

Wake Up and Take Control of Your Life! 
Are you in charge of your life? Or are you being swept away by things that are seemingly out of your control? In Awaken the Giant Within, shows you to take immediate control of your mental, emotional, Physical and financial destiny.! See "Awaken The Giant Within" Reviews and Summaries on amazon!
By applying the fundamental principles of self mastery, any person can take control of their life and harness the forces that shape destiny.

Self mastery holds the key to the quality of life. In particular, the nurture and development of a powerful belief system is vitally important. When a far-reaching belief system is established and regularly strengthened, a person life must follow the direction and ultimate destiny of that belief system.

You can literally have and achieve anything you want in life and create your own destiny by developing an appropriate underlying belief system, and then by using that system to influence everything you say, do and think. Anthony Robbins, the nation's leader in the science of peak performance, shows you his most effective strategies and techniques for mastering your emotions, your body, your relationships, your finances, and your life. The acknowledged expert in the psychology of change, Anthony Robbins provides a step-by-step program teaching the fundamental lessons of self-mastery that will enable you to discover your true purpose, take control of your life and harness the forces that shape your destiny.


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6. The One Minute Manager

by Ken Blanchard

For more than twenty years, millions of managers in Fortune 500 companies and small businesses nationwide have followed The One Minute Manager's techniques, thus increasing their productivity, job satisfaction, and personal prosperity. These very real results were achieved through learning the management techniques that spell profitability for the organization and its employees. See Reviews and Summaries on amazon!
For more than twenty years, millions of managers in Fortune 500 companies and small businesses nationwide have followed The One Minute Manager's techniques, thus increasing their productivity, job satisfaction, and personal prosperity. These very real results were achieved through learning the management techniques that spell profitability for the organization and its employees.

The One Minute Manager is a concise, easily read story that reveals three very practical secrets: One Minute Goals, One Minute Praising, and One Minute Reprimands.

The book also presents several studies in medicine and the behavioral sciences that clearly explain why these apparently simple methods work so well with so many people. By the book's end you will know how to apply them to your own situation and enjoy the benefits.

That's why The One Minute Manager has continued to appear on business bestseller lists for more than two decades, and has become an international sensation.

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7. Eat That Frog: 21 Great Ways To Stop Procrastinating And Get More Than in Less Time

by Brian Tracy


Customer Image Gallery for Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less TimeYour ability to select your most important task at each moment, and then to start on that task and get it done both quickly and well, will probably have more of an impact on your success than any other quality or skill you can develop!

If you develop the habit of setting clear priorities and getting important tasks completed quickly, you will run circles around a genius who talks a lot and makes wonderful plans but gets very little done.

An old saying is that "If the first thing you do each morning is to eat a live frog, you can go through the day with the satisfaction of knowing that that is probably the worst thing that is going to happen to you all day long!" Your "FROG" is the one you are most likely to procrastinate on if you don't do something about it now! It is also the one task that can have the greatest positive impact on your life and results at the moment.

It has also been said that "If you have to eat two frogs, eat the ugliest one first!" This is another way of saying that if you have two important tasks before you, start with the biggest, hardest, and most important task first. Discipline yourself to begin immediately and then to persist until the task is complete before you go on to something else.

You can think of it as a "TEST" or personal challenge. You must resist the temptation to start with the easier task! You must continually remind yourself that one of the most important decisions you make each day is your choice of what you will do immediately and what you will do later --- if you do it at all!

One final assumption is "If you have to eat a live frog, it does not pay to sit and look at it for a very long time!"

MAIN IDEA = The key to reaching high levels of performance and productivity is for you to develop the lifelong habit of tackling your major task first thing each morning. You must develop the routine of "eating your frog" before you do anything else and without taking too much time to think about it!

Successful, effective people are those who launch directly into their major tasks and then discipline themselves to work steadily and single-minded until those tasks are complete.

In the business world, you are paid and promoted for getting specific, measurable results. You are paid for making a valuable contribution that is expected of you. But many employees confuse activity with accomplishment and this causes one of the biggest problems in organizations today, which is failure to execute!

The key to happiness, satisfaction, great success, and a wonderful feeling of personal power and effectiveness is for you to develop the habit of eating your frog first thing every day when you start work! Fortunately, this is a learn able skill that you can acquire through repetition. When this habit of starting on your most important task first is developed, your success is assured.

Get more things done faster by learning the following 21 rules and principles until they are ingrained in your thinking and actions:


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8. How to Win Friends & Influence People

by Dale Carnegie


In his exuberant, conversational style, internationally bestselling author Dale Carnegie offers practical advice and techniques for hoe to get out of a mental rut and make your life more rewarding! See  "Reviews" on amazon!
How to Win Friends and Influence People  is a classic book by Dale Carnegie with a pretty self-explanatory title. The inspirational personal development guide that shows how to achieve lifelong success. How to Win Friends and Influence People is the first, and still the finest, book of its kind. One of the best-known motivational books in history. First published in 1937, Carnegie's advice has remained relevant for generations because he addresses timeless questions about the fine art of getting along with people: How can you make people like you instantly? How can you persuade people to agree with you? How can you speak frankly to people without giving offense? The ability to read others and successfully navigate any social situation is critically important to those who want to get a job, keep a job, or simply expand their social network. The core principles of this book, originally written as a practical, working handbook on human relations, are proven effective. Carnegie explains the fundamentals of handling people with a positive approach; how to make people like you and want to help you; how to win people to your way of thinking without conflict; and how to be the kind of leader who inspires quality work, increased productivity, and high morale. One of the top-selling books of all time, "How to Win Friends Influence People" has sold more than 15 million copies in all its editions., You can go after the job you want...and get it! You can take the job you have...and improve it! You can take any situation you're in...and make it work for you! For over 50 years the rock-solid, time-tested advice in this book has carried thousands of now famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. Now this phenomenal book has been revised and updated to help readers achieve their maximum potential in the complex and competitive 90s! Learn: The six ways to make people like you. The twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking The nine ways to change people without arousing resentment and much, much more......


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9. Flow: The Psychology of optimal experience

by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi


This is an amazing, thought-provoking book about being "in the zone" and experiencing life optimally, wouldn't we all love to be there more often? See Reviews and Summaries on amazon!In the 1970s a psychologist named Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi experimentally evaluated Flow. He found that a person's skill and the difficulty of a task interact to result in different cognitive and emotional states. When skill is too low and the task too hard, people become anxious. Alternatively, if the task is too easy and skill too high, people become bored. However, when skill and difficulty are roughly proportional, people enter Flow states.

While in these states, people experience
1. Extreme focus on a task.
2. A sense of active control.
3. Merging of action and awareness.
4. Loss of self-awareness.
5. Distortion of the experience of time.
6. The experience of the task being the only necessary justification for continuing it.

Csikszentmihalyi also outlined four characteristics found in tasks that drive an equilibrium between skill and difficulty, thus increasing the probability of Flow states. Specifically, these are tasks that:
  1. Have concrete goals with manageable rules.
  2. Demand actions to achieve goals that fit within the person's capabilities.
  3. Have clear and timely feedback on performance and goal accomplishment.
Diminish extraneous distraction, thus facilitating concentration.
Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's famous investigations of "optimal experience" have revealed that what makes an experience genuinely satisfying is a state of consciousness called flow. During flow, people typically experience deep enjoyment, creativity, and a total involvement with life. In this new edition of his groundbreaking classic work, Csikszentmihalyi demonstrates the ways this positive state can be controlled, not just left to chance. Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience teaches how, by ordering the information that enters our consciousness, we can discover true happiness and greatly improve the quality of our lives.

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10. 50 Self-Help Classic: 50 Inspirational Books To Transform Your Life from Timeless Sages to Contemporary Gurus

by Tom Butler-Bowdon

Thousands of books have been written offering the 'secrets' to personal fulfillment and happiness.But which are the all-time classics? Which ones really can change your life? Bringing you the essential ideas, insights and techniques from 50 legendary works from Lao-Tzu to Benjamin Franklin to Paulo Coelho, 50 Self-Help Classics is a unique guide to the great works of life transformation.  See more customers reviews on amazon!
Thousands of books have been written offering the 'secrets' to personal fulfillment and happiness: how to walk The Road Less Traveled, Win Friends and Influence People, or Awaken the Giant Within. But which are the all-time classics? Which ones really can change your life? Bringing you the essential ideas, insights and techniques from 50 legendary works from Lao-Tzu to Benjamin Franklin to Paulo Coelho, 50 Self-Help Classics is a unique guide to the great works of life transformation.


This is the first and only guide to personal development literature - to works that have captured the imagination of millions, and which can inspire you to follow your dream. 50 Self-Help Classics provides commentary assessing the impact of each classic and summaries each classic's key ideas, allowing the reader to make an informed choice from the bewildering array of books on the market.

A practical, inspirational and interesting guide to an area of literature that finally deserves to be taken seriously, this book covers, among others, Marcus Aurelius, M Scott Peck, Dale Carnegie, Deepak Chopra, Stephen Covey, the Dalai Lama, Benjamin Franklin, John Gray, Susan Jeffers, Phil McGraw, Anthony Robbins, Lao-Tzu, Marianne Williamson... 

Tom Butler-Bowdon has provided an excellent tool for personal re-engineering - ideal for anyone contemplating career change or re-orientation.


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Friday, May 30, 2014

The Secret to Freedom and Success






Think and Grow Rich- Napoleon Hill

Some books you read. Some books you enjoy. But some books just swallow you up, heart and soul.

Even if it 70 years since the book Think and Grow Rich was written, it is still a highly respected and read books. This classic is a motivational Personal Development and Self-Help Books written by Napoleon Hill. Napoleon Hill, is now counted in the top ranks of the world's winner himself. Hill draws on stories of Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and other millionaires of his generation to illustrate principles. While the title implies that this book deals only with how to achieve monetary wealth, the author explains that the philosophy taught in the book can be used to help individuals succeed in all lines of work and to do or be almost anything they want in this world. The book was first published in 1937 during the Great Depression. It had sold over 30 million copies and it remains the biggest seller of Napoleon Hill's books-a perennial best-seller after 70 years (Business Week Magazine's Best-Seller List ranked Think and Grow Rich as the sixth best-selling paperback business book 70 years after it was first published). Think and Grow Rich is listed in John C. Maxwell's A Lifetime "Must Read" Books List. The essence of the book Napoleon Hill's famous statement:

Everything your mind can conceive, you can achieve.

The title says the same in different words. A compelling title might explain initial rushes to buy a book, but in the last 60 years, the world has bought over 30 million copies of Think and Grow Rich why?

Hill refused to accept that success was the domain of luck or background or the Gods; and wanted to provide a concrete plan for success that depended entirely on us. The book also sold because it was not simply Hill's dreamed-up ideas, but a distillation of success secrets of hundreds of America's most successful men, beginning with his parton, steel baron Andrew Carnegie.

What do you want most? Is it Money, Fame, Power, Contentment, Personality, Peace of Mind, Happiness.

The The Thirteen Steps to Riches described in this book offer the shortest dependable philosophy of individual achievement ever presented for the benefit of the man or woman who is searching for a definite goal in life. It is a textbook on individual achievement that come directly from the experience, of hundreds of America's most successful men. It should be studied, digested, and meditated upon.

The very best example of the soundness of this philosophy is Blair, son of Napoleon Hill author of this book, whose dramatic story he has outlined in the chapter on DESIRE. Who born without normal hearing capacity, not only avoided becoming a deaf mute, but actually converted his handicap into a priceless asset by applying the philosophy described his book. After reading you will realize that you are about to come into possession of a philosophy which can be transmitted into material wealth or serve as readily harmony, and in some instances, as in the case of Blair, it can help you master physical affliction.

If you follow this plan persistently you will be almost certain to uncover and appropriate the secret formula described in this book.


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Wednesday, May 28, 2014

How To Deal With of Your Own Stress Soup

“ACE” your life with this fun exercise.

“Remember, stress is information about what is going on in your life,” says Kathleen Hall, Ph.D., founder of both The Stress Institute and Mindful Living Network. “Before you create an action plan, it is great to have a general knowledge of your stress triggers.” 
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Three components are the foundation for living an intentional life in balance, Hall says—awareness, choice and energy. (“Just remember the acronym, ACE your life,” she says.)

 Hall offers this exercise to help: 

Awareness: Reducing your stress begins with increasing your awareness (A) of daily experiences. Listen to what ignites your passion, energy and love, and what drains you, distracts you and irritates you. These are clues to becoming more aware of what you love and what stresses you.

 Action: Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the center, with a plus sign on the left for positives (happiness) and a minus on the right side for negatives (stress). 

Under the plus side of the paper ask yourself, What creates energy and happiness in my life? 

Write down five things such as your work, dog, spouse or playing golf. Think through your day and recall moments that made you happy. After listing your five positive experiences, rate them on a 1-to-3 basis. 1 = Least; 2 = Moderate; 3 = Extreme. 

Add the numbers. If your total is less than 10, please examine your life. “Never forget the five things you love most in your life,” Hall says. “If your life wanders from these, stop and do whatever it takes to move toward your treasure.” 

Under the minus side of the paper ask yourself, What creates chronic stress and unhappiness in my life? 

Write five things that sap your energy and make you worry. These might be finances, your job or a personal relationship. These are your stress triggers. After listing the five things, rate them on the same 1-to-3 basis as you did on the plus side. 

Add the numbers from your list. “If your total is 10 to 15, you are very stressed,” she says, “and you should seek the help of stress-management training, a counselor or your physician.” 

Choice: Now that you identified your major stressors, choice (C) can decrease your stress levels and unhappiness. 

“Your current life is a result of the choices you have already made,” Hall says. “You may not control some of the circumstances in your life, but you can choose your attitude and perception in response to stressful circumstances.” 

Action: Choose one item that you rated a 3 from the negative side of your list. Create a plan that will guide you to resolve this situation either by leaving the situation or changing your perspective of it or the way you deal with it from a negative to a positive. When you know you will be in this situation, make a conscious effort to practice stress reduction. 

Take a look at the positive side of your list, too. Choose one or two things you enjoy most and commit to doing those things more often.

Energy: Developing your awareness and making choices creates new energy (E), health, productivity and happiness, and less stress in your life. Action: “When you decide to live a more mindful life, you will become more aware of the effects of what you are eating, who you are living with and where you go to work each day,” Hall says. “You will begin to notice an energy swelling within you as you become more aware.” 

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Saturday, May 24, 2014

Thirty Major Causes Of Failures How Many Of These Are Holding You Back.

Life's greatest tragedy consists of men and women who earnestly try, and fail! The tragedy lies in the overwhelmingly large majority of people who fail, as compared to the few who succeed. Analyzing several thousand men and women, 98% of whom were classed as "failures."There is something radically wrong with a civilization, and a system of education, which permit 98% of the people to go through life as failures.

Analysis work proved that there are thirty major reasons for failure, and thirteen major principles through which people accumulate fortunes. As you go over the list, check yourself by it, point by point, for the purpose of discovering how many of these causes-of-failure stand between you and success.

UNFAVOURABLE HEREDITARY BACKGROUND. There is but little, if anything, which can be done for people who are born with a deficiency in brain power. This philosophy offers but one method of bridging this weakness-through the aid of the Master Mind. This is the only one of the thirty causes of failure which may not be easily corrected by any individual.

LACK OF A WELL-DEFINED PURPOSE IN LIFE. There is no hope of success for the person who does not have a central purpose, or definite goal at which to aim. Ninety-eight out of every hundred of those, whom had no such aim. Perhaps this was the major cause of their failure.

LACK OF AMBITION TO AIM ABOVE MEDIOCRITY. We offer no hope for the person who is so indifferent as not to want to get ahead in life, and who is not willing to pay the price.

INSUFFICIENT EDUCATION. Experience has proven that the best-educated people are often those who are known as "self-made,"plied. or self-educate. It takes more than a college degree to make one a person of education. Any person who is educated is one who has learned to get whatever he wants in life without violating the rights of others. Education consists, not so much of knowledge, but of knowledge, but of knowledge effectively and persistently applied. Men are paid, not merely for what they know, but more particularly for what they do with that which they know.

LACK OF SELF-DISCIPLINE. Discipline comes through self-control. One must control all negative qualities. Before you can control conditions, you must first control yourself. Self-mastery is the hardest job you will ever tackle. If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self. You may see at one and the same time both your best friend and your greatest enemy, by stepping in front of a mirror.

ILL HEALTH. No person may enjoy outstanding success without good health. Many of the causes of ill health are subject to mastery and control. These, in the main are:

a. Overeating of foods not conducive to health.
b. Wrong habits of thought; giving expression to negatives.
c. Wrong use of, and over indulgence in sex.
d. Lack of proper physical exercise.
e. An inadequate supply of fresh air, due to improper breathing.

UNFAVORABLE ENVIRONMENTAL INFLUENCES DURING CHILDHOOD. "As the twig is bent, so shall the tree grow." Most people who have criminal tendencies acquires them as the result of bad environment, and improper associates during childhood.

PROCRASTINATION. This is one of the most common causes of failures. "Old Man Procrastination" stands within the shadow of every human being, waiting the opportunity to spoil one's chances of success. Most of us go through life as failures, because we are waiting for the "time to be right" to start doing something worthwhile. Do not wait. The time will never be "just right." Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.

LACK OF PERSISTENCE. Most of us are good "starters" but poor "finishers" of everything we begin. Moreover, people are prone to give up at the first signs of defeat. There is no substitute for persistence. The person, who makes persistence his watch-word, discovers that "Old Man Failure" finally becomes tired, and makes his departure. Failure cannot cope with persistence.

NEGATIVE PERSONALITY. There is no hope of success for the person who repels people through a negative personality. Success comes through the application of power, and power is attained through the cooperative efforts of other people. A negative personality will not induce cooperation.

LACK OF CONTROLLED SEXUAL URGE. Sex energy is the most powerful of all the stimuli which move people into action. Because it is the most powerful of the emotions, it must be controlled, through transmutation, and converted into other channels.

UNCONTROLLED DESIRE FOR "SOMETHING FOR NOTHING."The gambling instinct drives millions of people to failure. Evidence of this may be found in a study of the Wall Street crash of "29, during which millions of people tried to make money by gambling on stock margins.

LACK OF A WELL DEFINED POWER OF DECISION. Men who succeed reach decisions promptly, and change them, if at all, very slowly. Men who fail, reach decisions, if at all, very slowly, and change them frequently, and quickly. Indecision and procrastination are twin brothers. Where one is found, the other may usually be found also. Kill off this pair before they completely "hog-tie" to the treadmill of failure.

WRONG SELECTION OF A MATE IN MARRIAGE. This a most common cause of failure. The relationship of marriage brings people intimately into contact. Unless this relationship is harmonious, failure is likely to follow. Moreover, it will be a form of failure that is marked by misery and unhappiness, destroying all signs of ambition.

OVER CAUTION.Thon is as bad as under-caution. The person who takes no chances, generally has to take whatever is left when others are through choosing. Over-caution is as bad as under-caution. Both are extremes to be guarded against. Life itself is filled with the element of chance.

WRONG SELECTION OF ASSOCIATES IN BUSINESS. This is one of the most common causes of failure in business. In marketing personal services, one should use great care to select an employer who will be an inspiration, and who is, himself, intelligent and successful. We emulate those with whom we associate most closely. Pick an employer who is worth emulating.

SUPERSTITION AND PREJUDICE. Superstition is a form of fear. It is also a sign of ignorance. Men who succeed keep open minds and are afraid of nothing.

WRONG SELECTION OF VOCATION. No man can succeed in a line of endeavor which he does not like. The most essential step in the marketing of personal services is that of selecting an occupation into which you can throw yourself wholeheartedly.

LACK OF CONCENTRATION OF EFFORT. The "jack-of-all-trades" seldom is good at any. Concentrate all of your efforts on one definite chief aim.

THE HABIT OF INDISCRIMINATE SPENDING. The spendthrift cannot succeed, mainly because he stands eternally in fear of poverty. From the habit of systematic saving by putting aside a definite percentage of your income.

LACK OF ENTHUSIASM. Without enthusiasm one cannot be convincing. Moreover,, enthusiasm is contagious, and the person, who has it, under control, is generally welcome in any group of people.

INTOLERANCE. The person with a "closed" mind on any subject seldom gets ahead. Intolerance means that one has stopped acquiring knowledge. The most damaging forms of intolerance are those with religious, racial, and political differences of opinion.

INTEMPERANCE. The most damaging forms of intemperance are connected with eating, strong drink, and sexual activities. Overindulgence in any of these is fatal to success.

INABILITY TO COOPERATE WITH OTHERS. More people lose their positions and their big opportunities in life, because of this fault, than for all other reasons combined. It is a fault which no well-informed business man, or leader will tolerate.

POSSESSION OF POWER THAT WAS NOT ACQUIRED. (sons  and daughters of wealthy men, and others who inherit money which they did not earn). Power in the hands of one who did not acquire it gradually, is often fatal to success. Quick Riches are more dangerous than poverty.

INTENTIONAL DISHONESTY. There is no substitute for honesty. One may be temporarily dishonest by force of circumstances over which has no control, without permanent damage. But, there is no hope for the person who is dishonest by choice. Sooner or later, his deeds will catch up with him, and he will pay by loss of reputation, and perhaps even loss of liberty.

EGOTISM AND VANITY. These qualities serve as red lights which warn others to keep away. The are fatal to success.

GUESSING INSTEAD OF THINKING. Most people are too indifferent or lazy to acquire facts with which to think accurately. They prefer to act on "opinions" created by guesswork or snap-judgments.

LACK OF CAPITAL. This is a common cause of failure in business for the first time, without sufficient reserve of capital to absorb the shock of their mistakes, and to carry them over until they have established a reputation.

In these thirty major causes of failure is found a description of the tragedy of life, which obtains for particularly every person who tries and fails. It will be helpful if you can induce someone who knows you will to go over this list with you, and help to analyze you by the thirty causes of failure. It may be beneficial if you try this alone. Most people cannot see themselves as others see them. You  may be one who cannot.

The oldest of admonitions is "Mn, know thyself!" If you market merchandise successfully, you must know the merchandise. The same is true in marketing personal services. You Should know your strength in order that you may call attention to it when selling your services. You can yourself only through accurate analysis.

                                           Extract from Napoleon Hill  "THINK and GROW RICH"


Thursday, April 17, 2014

Why some people always frustrated with reversals and crisis?

There are so many factors that can cause you to fail. But by working to overcome these factors, you can release the brakes that are holding back you success.

1.Unwillingness to take risk:  Success involves taking calculated risks. Risk-taking does not mean gambling foolishly and behaving irresponsible and rash behaviour as risk-taking. They end up with negative results and blame it on bad luck. The person who never attempts anything risky makes no mistakes. However, not making the attempt is often a bigger mistake than making the attempt and failing.

2. Lack of persistence: Most people fail not because they lack knowledge or talent but because they quit. Secret of success lies in two tracts. Persistence and Resistance.

3. Instant gratification: Remember that when going for instant gratification, are never thinks of consequences, only for momentary pleasures. When you think short term, not long term, it is limited vision. With limited vision you will never see any worthwhile goals.

4. Lack of priorities: Prioritization requires discipline to do what needs to be done rather than taking action based on our moods and fancies.

Success does not come by reading or memorizing the principles that lead to success, but by understanding them and setting your priorities to apply them.

5. Looking for shortcuts: You get what put in. If you don't put much into a project, you won't get much out of it. Many times we look for the easier way, which really ends up being the tougher way.

6. Selfishness and Greed: Individuals and organizations that have a selfish attitude have no right to expect growth. Their attitude is to keep passing the buck without regard for the welfare of others. Greed always wants more. Needs can be satisfied, but greed cannot. Greeds come of poor self-esteem, which manifests itself as false pride, pretence, or "keeping up with the Joneses." The way out of greed is to learn to live within your means and be satisfied. Being content does not mean lack of ambition.

7. Lack of conviction: People who lack conviction take the middle of the road. People without conviction do not take a stand. They go along to get along because they lack confidence and courage. They conform in order to get accepted even when they know that what they are doing is wrong.

8. Unwillingness to plan and prepare: Preparation is the necessary edge to succeed in any field.

9. Rationalizing: Winners may analyze but they never rationalize- losers always have a book full of excuses. Reasons don't count while results do.

10.Not learning from past mistakes: People who do not learn lessons from history are doomed. Some people learn from their mistakes-wiser people learn from other people's mistakes.

11.Inability to recognize opportunity: Opportunities, can come disguised as obstacles. That is why most people don't recognize them. The bigger the obstacles, the better is the opportunity.

12.Fear: Fear can be real or imaginary. Fear makes people do strange things. Fear results in insecurity, lack of confidence and procrastination. It destroys our potential and ability.

13.Inability to use talent: Human beings use only 10-12% of their potential. The saddest part of most people's lives is that they die with the music still in them.

They haven't lived life while alive. They rust out rather than wear out. than rust out. The saddest words in life are: "I should have."

14.Lack of discipline: Have you ever wondered why some people never reach their goals? Why they are always frustrated with reversals and crisis? Why do some people have continued success, while other have endless failures. Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile has never done so without disciplines, whether in sports, athletics, academia or business.

15.Poor self-esteem: Poor self-esteem is lack of self respect and self worth. It leads to abuse of one's self and others. People with low self esteem are constantly looking for identity. They are trying to find themselves.

16.Lack of knowledge:


17.Fatalistic attitude: A fatalistic attitude prevents people from accepting responsibility for their circumstances. People with fatalistic attitudes attribute success and failure to luck. They wait for things to happen rather than making them happen. Success is a matter of luck ask any failure, weak minded people fall easy prey to fortune-tellers, horoscopes and self proclaimed Godman who are sometimes conmen. If you want to fail, believe in luck. If you want to succeed, believe in the principles of cause and effect, and you will create your own "luck".

18.Lack of purpose: When people lack purpose and direction, they see no opportunity. If a person has the desire to accomplish something, knows the direction to move to achieve his objective, has the dedication to stay focused, and has the discipline required to put in the hard work, then success follows. But if you don't have purpose and direction, it doesn't matter what else you have, you won't succeed.

19.Lack of courage: Successful people do not look for miracles or easy tasks. They seek courage and strength to overcome obstacles.

20.Lack of understanding of nature's laws:  Success is a matter of laws of nature. Change is nature's law. We are either moving forward or we are going backward. A seed, if it is not planted in the earth to create disintegrates. Change is inevitable. It is going to happen whether you like it or not. All progress is change but all change is not progress. Success is not a matter of luck, but of laws. In order to succeed, we need to understand the law of cause and effect and the relationship between action and results. For every effect, there is a cause. The law of cause and effect is the same as the law of sowing and reaping.


Saturday, April 12, 2014

Good or Bad Habits always deliver results

Your habits determine your outcomes. Successful people don't just drift to the top. Getting there requires focused action, personal discipline, and lots of energy every day to make things happen. The habits you develop from this day forward will ultimately determine how your future unfolds.

One of the problems for people with poor habits is that the results of their bad habits usually don't show up until much later in life. When you develop a chronic bad habits, life will eventually give you consequences. You may not like the consequences, but life will still deliver them. The fact is, if you keep on doing things a certain way you will always got a predictable results. Negative habits breed negative consequences. Positive habits create positive consequences.

You must have to take action for changing your habits. First you make a list of all the habits that keep you unproductive or that might negatively impact your future. Look for patterns. Also review the most common unsuccessful habits.

Develop just four new habits a year, 5 year from now you'll have 20 new success habits that could bring you all the money. you want, the wonderful loving relationships you desire, a healthier, more energized body, plus all sorts of new opportunities. Start by listing four new habits you would like to establish in the next year. Work on one new habit every quarter. If you work diligently on building one new habit every 13 weeks, you won't overwhelm yourself with an unrealistic list of New Year Resolutions..... and research shows that if you repeat a behaviour for 20 minutes a day, flossing your teeth, reviewing your goals..... it will be your for life. By systematically adding one behaviour at a time, you can dramatically improve your over all life style.

Success is a matter of understanding and religiously practising specific, simple habits that always lead to success.        Robert J. Ringer

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Believe in yourself


If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. You have to believe you have the right stuff, that you are able to pull it off. You have to believe in yourself. But remember, the past is the past. There is no payoff for blaming them for your current level of self-confidence. It's now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs. You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to-anything at all-because, in fact, you can. It might help you to know that the latest brain research now indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with the proper training, coaching, and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.

If a 20-year-old Texan can take up the luge and become an Olympic athlete, a college dropout can become a billionaire, and a dyslexic student who failed three grades can become a best-selling author and television producer, then you, too, can accomplish anything if you will simply believe it is possible.

If you assume in favor of yourself and act as if it is possible, then you will do the things that are necessary to bring about the result. If you believe it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary, and you will not produce the result. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase "I can't" and all of its cousins, such as "I wish I were able to." The words I can't actually dis empower you. They actually make you weaker when you say them.

Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body. You must take responsibility for removing I can't from your vocabulary.

Don't waste your life believing you can't:

In 1977, in Tallahassee, Florida, Laura Shultz, who was 63 at the time, picked up the back end of a Buick to get it off her grandson'. Before that time, she had never lifted anything heavier than a 50-pound bag of pet food. 
Dr. Charles Garfield, aether of Peak Performance and Peak Performers, interviewed her after reading about her in the National Enquirer. When he got to her home, she kept resisting any attempts to talk about what she called "the event."

Finally he got her to talk about "the event." She said she didn't like to thin about it because it challenged her beliefs about what she could and couldn't do, about what was possible. She said,"If I was able to do this when I didn't think I could, what does that say about the rest of my life? Have I wasted it?"

Charlie convinced her that her life was not yet over and that she could still do whatever she wanted to do. He asked her what she wanted to do, what her passion was. She said she had always loved rocks. She had wanted to study geology. At 63, with a little coaching with Charlie, she decided to go back to school to study geology. She eventually got her degree and went on to teach at a local community college.

Don't wait until you are 63 to decide that you can do anything you want. Don't waste years of your life. Decide that you are capable of doing anything you want and start working toward it now.

Here's another statistic showing that belief in yourself is more important than knowledge, training or schooling: 20% of America's millionaires never set foot in college, and 21 of the 222 Americans listed as billionaires in 2003 never got their college diplomas; 2 never even finished high school! So although education and a commitment to lifelong learning are essential to success, a formal degree isn't a requirement. Larry Ellison, CEO of Oracle, dropped out of the university of Illinois and at the time of this writing was worth $18 billion. And Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard and later founded Microsoft. Today he is considered one of the richest men in the world, with a net worth of over $ 46 billion.

Even Vice President Dick Cheney dropped out of college. When you realize that the vice president, the richest man in America, and many of our greatest musicians and athletes , are all college dropouts, you see that you can start from any where and create a successful life for yourself.

What others think about you is none of your business.

"You have to believe in yourself when no one else
does. That's what makes you a winner."
                                      - Venus Williams

If having others believing in you and your dream was a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything. You need to base your decisions about what you want to do on your goals and desires- not the goals, desires, opinions, and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children, and coworkers. Quit worrying what other people think about you and follow your heart. 

Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rules: When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you; when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you; when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.

Surprise! Most of the time, nobody's thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives, and if they are thinking about them. People think about themselves, not you. Think about it- all the time you are wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home could all be better spent on thinking about doing the things that will achieve your goals.
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Monday, January 27, 2014

Be clear why you're here

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in life has a purpose.
                 -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.

Each of us is born with a life purpose. Identifying acknowledging, and honoring this purpose is perhaps the most important action successful people take. They take the time to understand what they're here to do and then they pursue that with passion and enthusiasm.

Without a purpose in life, it's easy to get sidetracked on your life's journey. It's easy to wander and drift, accomplishing little.

But with a purpose, everything in life seems to fall into place. To be "on purpose" means you're doing what you love to do, doing what you're good at and accomplishing what's important to you. When you truly are on purpose, the people, resources, and opportunities you need naturally gravitate toward you.

Decide upon your major definite purpose in life and then organize all your activities around it.
Once you know what your life purpose is, you can organize all of your activities around it. Everything you do should be an expression of your purpose. If an activity doesn't fit that formula, you wouldn't work on it.

Without purpose as the compass to guide you, your goals and action plans may not ultimately fulfill you. You don't want to get to the top of the ladder only to find out you had it leaning up against the wrong wall.

You were born with an inner guidance system that tells you when you are on or off purpose by the amount of joy you are experiencing. The things that bring you the greatest joy are in alignment with your purpose. To begin to home in on your purpose, make a list of the times you have felt most joyful and alive.

Figure out what you love to do as young as you can, and then organize your life around figuring out how to make a living at it. Once you are clear about what brings you the greatest joy, you will have a major insight into your purpose. The second exercise is a simple but powerful way to create a compelling statement of your life purpose to guide and direct your behaviour.

Staying on purpose

Once you have determined and written down your life purpose, read it every day, preferably in the morning, if you're artistic or strongly visual by nature, you may want to draw or paint a symbol or picture that represents your life purpose and then hang it somewhere where you will see it every day. This will keep you focused on your purpose.

Another approach to clarifying your purpose is to set aside some time for quite reflection-time for a period of meditation. After you become relaxed and enter into a state of deep self-love and peacefulness, ask yourself, what is my purpose for living? or what is my unique role in the universe? Allow the answer to simply come to you.Let it be as expensive as you can imagine. The words that come need not be flowery or poetic, what is important is how inspired the words make you feel.
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